Euphoria is a new series on HBO that is TV-MA however it’s from a teen perspective of life. I finished the whole season of Euphoria and left me feeling a bit sad for Rue and most of the teenagers. I for one personally love the makeup looks and the musical selections of the show. Of course, I also like the concept and the subject matter that was so intricately explored. Again, Euphoria is a very mature show that deals with a lot of nudity sexual affair and drug use. This isn't a show to be watched if you think your teen is going to be extremely susceptible to influence or if your teen is not aware of any of the type of things such as sex, substance use, and more. If your teen is aware of these type of behavior, indulge in a few with these behaviors, or have in the past, this is a great show to ask them to watch or potentially watch with them. If you’ve been reading the blog enough, you know that I often talk about TV shows and how to watch TV shows with your teen. I will link another blog post where I talk about the best way to watch shows with your teenager to elicit information.
There are three common themes that I pulled from the show that I feel should be highlighted.
1. Parents being emotionally open is a major key in their child development
So if you watch the show, you’ll notice that the main character experienced a very huge loss of her father. Rightfully so, it was stressful for everyone involved, which I’m sure we could all identify with. Through that journey, Rue learned a lot about medication because she took care of her father and when Rue's dad died, the family shut off emotionally from life. What I gathered from Rue was that the lack of grieving healthily, although there is no right way to grieve, impacted her relationships with addiction. The lack of grieving healthily or should I say who the lack of open communication around the loss, seemed to impact the entire family. This leads me to believe that Rue's substance use is directly tied to her connection with her father. Hear me out, I’m hypothesizing that since she had her first pill with her father in the room, using drugs became a way she still connected to his presence. That may seem far-fetched, however, when we look at the symbolism, bonding can also occur through substance use. I wonder how Rue would have been if her mother was open to the discussion about losing her husband.
2. Environment is paramount
This is the most layered reality and I believe I’m going to have to do a separate blog on this topic, but until then let’s talk about how the environment impacts your child’s emotional and mental health. Rue went to a school with lots of dynamics that impacted her ability to function. This happens often. Many schools and many parents do not understand it and those that may understand it, do not opt to take reasonable action. Since she was dealing with a substance issue, her isolating herself, her not showing up for things, not having a hobby, continued to leave her in a position of wanting to use substances. Her environment was not conducive for a teen to stay clean. She went to the same places, hung out with the same people, which allowed her to live her old life. The take away here is, if your teenager is experiencing lots of discomforts, lots of adverse behaviors, etc., consider the environment that they’re in and consider how you can make adjustments to the environment for optimal health.
3. Positive Attention Matters
Often we look at teens and decide that because their peer group is the most important group to them, they don’t need healthy positive adult/parental attention. A grave mistake and a bigger misconception than any other misconception about teen development. While watching this show, I realized none of the teenagers received any positive attention from their parents or any positive attention that wasn’t reliant on some type of accolade or accomplishment. It is a TV show and maybe those aspects weren’t shown, however, it doesn't change my stance. Parents must show their team positive attention. In the show, you notice several children going and coming as freely as they wanted to, engaging in a lot of risky behavior, and truly feeling unwanted or not liked. I’m not saying this to say your teen won't still make choices for other people or attention. As a parent, your voice still matters. Think about how you can give your teen positive attention as they are growing through the toughest part of their identity.
Thanks for reading today’s blog. If you haven’t already, feel free to check out the show Euphoria on HBO. Even if you don’t have a teenager yet, you have a preteen or younger child, feel free to watch this show for insight. I’ve heard a lot of different critiques on the show. feel free to email me if you have any thoughts about this blog post or any thoughts about the shower or if you have a team that’s struggling with self-esteem issues filling up the bill is of the process so I booked a website or identity issues as a black girl I feel free to email me and maybe we can talk more about setting up a session.
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As a parent, your voice still matters.